Although I don’t often talk about my own story during counselling sessions – because after all, this is your time and space – sometimes a bit of background can be helpful as an introduction. So here’s a snapshot.
I grew up in a small town in Scotland, spending a lot of time in the outdoors. I did well at school but was bullied, which made it difficult for me to feel I fitted in with girls my age. A bit later, I fell in with a rebellious crowd and got involved in things which, in hindsight, weren’t very wise choices!
My father died when I was 13 after a long illness, and part of my troubles at the time was as a result of not knowing how to handle my feelings about that. Then, when I was 17, I was badly injured in a road accident, which stopped me in my tracks for a while, but which also led – in part – to me becoming a counsellor.
I didn’t go straight into therapy work though; before training as a counsellor, I was a radio and television producer, working mostly for the BBC in their documentary departments. I loved listening to the stories people would share with me, often for the first time.
Sometimes the stories were joyful ones and other times they were tales of great hardship and struggle. Often I was struck by the capacity of human beings to persevere in the toughest of times and to come out the other side.
A change of direction
Gradually though I came to realise that a short radio or television interview was not always the most appropriate forum for someone to speak openly about the difficulties or experiences they’d had in their lives; they were ‘stuck’ and I had nothing to give them other than a few minutes of my time before saying goodbye. I decided to retrain as a counsellor alongside my production work so that I could help people resolve those problems that, in some cases, they’d been living with for years.
A series of life events and life-changing decisions brought me to Portsmouth, and my desire to help people make constructive and positive changes in their lives through change-focused counselling was born.
If you’d like help with a problem or difficulty in your life, or you’re searching for a renewed sense of meaning or fulfilment, please drop me a line or give me a call. You can email me via this contact page, where you’ll also find my contact number.